What’s your most paradigm-shifting moment as a parent? In a new roundtable video, Jen Wilkin sits down with fellow moms Melissa Kruger and Kristie Anyabwile to discuss key lessons they’ve each learned over the years.

“Learning to let God parent me as I parent my kids has been an important lesson,” explains Melissa Kruger, author of the forthcoming book Walking with God in the Season of Motherhood: An Eleven-Week Devotional Bible Study (WaterBrook, 2015). “In his providence God sometimes lets them inconvenience my plans so that he can grow me through his.”

“One paradigm-shifting moment that’s happened over and over,” Anyabwile adds, “is when I’ve re-embraced the truth that my children are made in God’s image, not mine. My calling is to mold and shape them to look like him.”

“It’s easy to mistake ourselves for our children’s Creator,” Wilkin observes. “We’re not. But we do parent as those who will give an account.” She recounts a time when an older mom pressed home this truth to her heart in a liberating way.