A Prayer for Wisdom for Loving Well in Complex Storylines

     If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and he will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking. James 1:5 (NLT)

Dear heavenly Father, like every day, I begin this day grateful for your daily mercies, eternal kindness, and measureless generosity. Not only have you given Jesus to us as our perfect righteousness, you provide us with everything else we need in life. Today, I need wisdom, and I trust your promise to give it gladly and freely.

Father, I need wisdom for loving well in complex relationships and broken storylines. Please help me know the difference between overlooking a fault and covering up something that needs to be revealed. When does patience turn into denial; turning the other cheek become enabling; and “trying to be nice” morph into unhealthy conflict avoidance? You must show me, Father, I just don’t know.

I know the gospel will always require more of us than I readily give, but grant me wisdom to know what that means, when its just not easy to discern. How do I validate the emotions of others without taking responsibility for those emotions? How do I listen, not with the goal of fixing, but loving? When should I risk losing relationship because of a greater commitment to honor you and protect the innocent? What’s the line between waiting a little longer, and now’s the time to act?

Father, help me with my own emotional triggers. Shame, fear, and anger are always lurking around the corner. Continue to reveal and heal the wounds of my heart that remain in need of your grace, surgery and rehab. Continue to expose old relational patterns I learned (and perfected) in response to abandonment, betrayal, and insecurity.

I so long for the Day when I will be made perfect in love, and will love perfectly forever. Until that Day, I will rest in your love for us, Father, and trust you for all the grace and wisdom that I need on a daily (even hourly) basis. So very Amen I pray, in Jesus’ merciful and mighty name.