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Family Feuds and Tensions over the Holidays
Posted By Justin Taylor On November 21, 2012 @ 8:47 am In Uncategorized | Comments Disabled
Here’s a summary focused on the holiday celebrations and stresses of family get-togethers.
For some, these gatherings are dreaded and avoided when possible.
Why is that? Why is it so hard to get along with the people you grew up with? Is there any hope that old, hurtful patterns can be changed?
In this booklet, Tim Lane writes about these challenges and how through your relationship with Christ you can learn how to love your family and reach out to them in concrete and practical ways.
Lane begins by rehearsing a number of truths:
He then gives some practical strategies for change:
Here’s the conclusion:
Loving your family in these ways will mean dying to self-centeredness and growing in Christ-centeredness. As you pray and ask the Spirit of God to change you, old barriers you have erected between you and your family will come down. This will encourage your family members to take down the barriers they have put up.
As your love for God grows, your movement towards your parents and siblings will be wise. Instead of looking for their validation or approval you will love them the sacrificially, the way Christ has loved you. You will be able to move toward them because God, in Christ, has moved towards you and his love has been poured into your heart (see Romans 5:4). God’s love will flow from you into your relationship with your family. You can depend on the unfailing love of God to change you and your family.
In a complementary piece, Russell Moore offers “a few quick thoughts  on what followers of Jesus ought to remember, especially if you’ve got a difficult extended family situation.” He outlines his counsel under five headings:
You can read the whole thing here .
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 Family Feuds: How to Respond: http://www.wtsbooks.com/product-exec/product_id/5737/?utm_source=jtaylor&utm_medium=jtaylor
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